Park where you like. Keep a mobile phone in an outside pocket; set it to record if you see Captain Caveman approach. Could your other half record any confrontation from a window as well? Assuming you don't end up in Casualty, a couple of recordings of his threatening behaviour and a visit from the BiB should sort him out.

That is what I would do. I would simply park where I wished, and be calm and polite to this chap. He sounds like an unpleasant bully. If you do get a recording of threats, visit the police, and they will visit him. This does open you to more abuse though. I suppose you could submit to his bullying, but I'd rather stay calm and polite and park where I want. I did once park where someone didn't want me. The next day there was a large dent in the car wing. So recording threats in that case would have been useful. Some people are nasty, there have always been such types.

Bit of a pet hate of mine as a bus driver that people park on the road instead of their empty driveway.

Not a bus driver but I have that pet hate too. We're lucky where we are now as we can park cars side by side on drive. At previous house we could get two, possibly three if all small, but tandem/line astern. On weekdays I usually left first and arrived home last but as she had the 'family' car and mine was a station hack they often ended in wrong order on a Sunday. Only took five minutes to shuffle them on Sunday evening but it looks as though few folks locally nowadays think like that now.

OTOH my neighbour Tim deserves a medal for this stuff. They have a family car, his work van and two grown up offspring still at home who commute by car. At weekends offspring's boyfriend/girlfriend add to mix. They get three cars on the drive with one blocking other two in and just one on road outside - others are left further down road where there's loads of space outside community hall.

Edited by Bromptonaut on 13/09/2018 at 21:03

I had a similiar problem a few months back. A neighbour parks his van and obstructs another neighbours driveway/dropped kerb and is afraid of confronting him. I cannot get involved in her dispute, but when he blocked my driveway as her mum was parked in front of her driveway, and I had the temerity to ask him to move at 8.54 pm so that I would not have to wake him up at 3 in the morning if the phone went and SWMBO was called into the hospital on call. (if the Phone goes she hs 20 minutes to be on the ward.)

It set off a chain of events that is still being felt 6 months on.

What makes me smile this morning is that someone hs parked their car in the road in front of his house, Public parking, no dropped kerb.. I don't know who it is and don't care but it is amusing to see them "look" at it when passing.

Society is getting more aggressive, more selfish and generally more ignorant. Not sure why but I'm sure plenty of people will have their theories.

I can understand why people wouldn't want to rock the boat, and if you're moving house then I'd be inclined to agree. That said, why should you tolerate behaviour like that? If you show weakness and let him have his way then where does it stop?

Is he living in that flat by the grace of the local Housing Association? If so, I bet they'd love to know about his aggressive behaviour.

The situation doesn't have to descend into fisticuffs before the police will get involved. He's already committed an offence under Section 5 of the Public Order Act, although it's your word against his right now. Record everything he says and does to you, your family and your property, even if it's not related to the parking issue. Pass it to the police and the Housing Association (if applicible).

Like I said, I can understand why people wouldn't want to get involved, but dregs like this shouldn't be allowed to get their own way.

I have high blood pressure, an ectopic heartbeat, and no wish to end up like my nephew, who leaves 3 kids, the youngest is 11 years old. Council, Police and Landlord don't give a fig. (and in his case certainly didn't.) The perpetrator has pleaded not guilty m'lud.

Edited by oldroverboy. on 14/09/2018 at 13:06

Is he living in that flat by the grace of the local Housing Association?

Like I said, I can understand why people wouldn't want to get involved, but dregs like this shouldn't be allowed to get their own way.

It's a private landlord, who seems to own six flats in this street and more in the next village. The police get on his back and he just moves the tennants around. The previous occupant was also a total nutter, but didn't drive!

my space

Please define "my space"? Do you pay for it?

my space -- Please define "my space"? Do you pay for it?

As we are talking 'flats' there may well be allocated spaces ? If so, a gentle invitation to use his own space might be called for.

As someone who lives in a flat where we have allocated spaces, this sort of thing is fraught with problems:

Sometimes (as it was where I live) the spaces are not marked. They will be on the leasehold agreement, but how many people read and have quick access to that, especially tenants (who won't and normally are THE worst offenders in using other people's spaces or visitor bays).

Trying to be nice to such people will mostly fail, but I agree that it's certainly worth trying. Then go to the residents association/local council (whoever runs the development) who should then get involved.

Sometimes if it's a tenant, the letting agency/BTL owner can help, but mostly they try and stay out, at most they'll send out a polite letter with no 'or else' bit, because they'd rather have their fees than the tenant move out. Rarely do they car about neighbours, but occasionally they do.

These sort of incidents tend to follow a pattern of other bad behaviour from said people - late night noise, littering, badly behaved kids, etc. Only when it's a new neighbour who mistakes your space for theirs (my development's spaces are numbered by plot and not property number), and that problem usually resolves itself quickly after a quick chat.

If the spaces aren't marked, then the residents association should do so asap, including visitor bays. They should also issue the parking rules to everyone as a separate 'document' (including BTL owners and all local letting agencies/estate agents to coop for new tenants) so there is NO ambiguity. It also means that visitors are far less likely to temporarily 'borrow' a resident's allocated space. Delivery drivers gnore them and just park anywhere.

Delivery drivers gnore them and just park anywhere.

I don't have an issue with that - usually deliveries are done right away and they won't be hanging about.

I should've said delivery drivers and contractors in vans. Even with delivery drivers, they often aren't just parked up for 30 seconds, especially when delivering to flats. Some park in front of people's cars or on the opposite side of the road, meaning you don't have space to get in or out of your parking space.

I don't see why I should have to risk my car being ticketed parking in either someone else's allocated space, on the road (also not allowed [obstructs other vehicles due to the roads being narrow]) or in a visitor space, especially when there are often more than enough visitor spaces (including next to my allocated space!) available. It''s just sheer laziness on their part.

Having to put with this on a regular basis is not good. We had to get a parking control firm to patrol (unadopted roads) to reduce this problem. The issue with vans is now worse because of how many home deliveries there are and more people working at home, meaning there are less 'empty' spaces near each building. Van drivers tend to take the nearest to the building/easiest to get in/out of.