"Yeah but many students don't have dyspraxcia like I do you stupid idiot!"
If you have dyspraxia, you have our sympathy. So why forfeit it by being rude?
You have been given sound advice here and on other threads: (a) prepare properly for the theory test between now and when you go back to university, and (b) have driving lessons in your university town.
But you reject the advice, usually in language which implies that you know the answers and we don't (so why ask?). When things go wrong for you, it isn't always someone else's fault.
Will you please NOT use this forum again. Clearly we are no help to you. Because of your dyspraxia I won't disable your account for now, but I won't hesitate to do so if you come back and insult someone.
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I should add - thanks to Andy and Dan above for their evidence that despite dyspraxia things can be achieved.
Rather as with dyslexia, I think it's best to view dyspraxia as not so much a disability as a different way of doing things, learning in particular. The rest of us need to make allowances, but equally the people concerned need to accept what they have and strive to overcome any problems they have.
That includes asking for help and being grateful when help is given.
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I should add here that my niece (who is now a very good intensive care nurse) suffered from dyspraxia, but worked hard, and with her parents support did her theory and practical tests and passed both. She plans her routes in advance, avoids motorways (partly because she drives a smart for 2)..
She is a credit to all those who helped her, and was and is grateful for the support given, but realisedthat SHE was the one who had to do better..
There is no sin in failing an exam or theory test. next time prepare better.
Good luck.
Edited by _ORB_ on 05/07/2020 at 14:34
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So you think I could pass with the right work even with my placement year next year. What if I don't pass by then that would be a disaster because it would mean taking a year out of driving and still having to wear a mask on public transport by the time 2022 comes
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So you think I could pass with the right work even with my placement year next year. What if I don't pass by then that would be a disaster because it would mean taking a year out of driving and still having to wear a mask on public transport by the time 2022 comes
Use those negatives as incentives to do all that is necessary to pass.
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The forum moderator wrote, quite clearly :-
Will you please NOT use this forum again. Clearly we are no help to you. Because of your dyspraxia I won't disable your account for now, but I won't hesitate to do so if you come back and insult someone.
A generous or sympathetic explanation for your continuing with the topic could simply be that you didn't see it. But you have now.
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KB, don't try and bait me, he said don't use this forum again if I come back and insult someone. You can help me and this is a good site to help me
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And I won't insult anyone again. I have improved so much. I just need to control my temper because i snap sometimes if I am depressed. I feel more positive now and things have improved due to me taking medication and trying to stay off forums more but i still get upset sometimes
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KB, don't try and bait me, he said don't use this forum again if I come back and insult someone. You can help me and this is a good site to help me
Only just spotted this post, please ignore the help I tried to give you below.
Avant clearly said Will you please NOT use this forum again, nothing about not insulting anyone so be a good boy and go away for now and for all time.
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I won't disable your account for now, but I won't hesitate to do so if you come back and insult someone.
He also said that, so I'm not going to insult anyone again. And why should I go away all the time. You do realize this is not my fault the way I am. Where else do I get advice about driving lessons or cars
I am banned from so many sites I actually want to be part of a nice community which this one seems like.
If I get banned then please tell me somewhere that can give me advice about driving
Edited by travelguy1234 on 05/07/2020 at 16:42
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You do realize this is not my fault the way I am. Where else do I get advice about driving lessons or cars?
No one has suggested that it is 'your fault', but unfortunately you are the only person who can take control and adjust your behaviour. And Avant actually said 'Will you please not use this forum again (full stop). My interpretation of his remarks was that you are welcome to visit, but less welcome to begin threads or complicate existing threads.
You have to admit that you have repeated yourself a lot on this topic, even changing identity once or twice.
Edited by Andrew-T on 05/07/2020 at 18:28
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To be fair if he did ban me i would just return again like I did last time.
You tell me this, where else to I go for advice about driving. Im banned from the
1. Student Room
2. Money Saving Expert
3. Digital Spy
4. AV Fourms
5. The Sleeping Dogs
6. Urban
So many sites have banned me just for mental health issues and getting angry because I 1 havent got a girlfriend, 2 can't drive, 3 haven't graduated from uni and 4 haven't got a job
If I had all 4 of these I would be happier
My stepbrother is due to get married next year, my stepsister is living with her boyfriend and looking for a house (Me-I'm still living with my parents being older then them and no where near getting where I want to be in life)
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To be fair if he did ban me i would just return again like I did last time.
You tell me this, where else to I go for advice about driving. Im banned from the
1. Student Room
2. Money Saving Expert
3. Digital Spy
4. AV Fourms
5. The Sleeping Dogs
6. Urban
So many sites have banned me just for mental health issues and getting angry because I 1 havent got a girlfriend, 2 can't drive, 3 haven't graduated from uni and 4 haven't got a job
If I had all 4 of these I would be happier
My stepbrother is due to get married next year, my stepsister is living with her boyfriend and looking for a house (Me-I'm still living with my parents being older then them and no where near getting where I want to be in life)
Try piston heads that's a motoring website with a knowledgeable forum but I doubt they'd put up with your behaviour any more than the others.
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If I had all 4 of these I would be happier.
You've spent many hours on here asking for advice, and have been given some, which it seems has not provided the answers you want. You are looking for a shoulder to cry on, and I'm afraid a motoring forum can only be a poor substitute. After a while the sympathetic souls will get tired of trotting out the same replies, you get a bit annoyed, and sometimes end up being 'banned'. Then the cycle starts again with a new alias. Is that the best way forward ?
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Well no the advice hasn't worked yet
am I driving yet, no, am i getting a job-no, have i got a girlfriend-no
So no the advice isn't working
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So you think I could pass with the right work even with my placement year next year.
I learned to drive when I was a 17 year old apprentice and in addition to doing the day job had to attend college for 1 1/2 days a week plus 1 evening (total learning hours 14 which is only 2 hours less than the 16 that constitutes a full time course these days). Then I had to do the courseworks etc in my spare time.
But the incentive to put in hours learning to drive (I had 17 lessons from early June to early November plus a small amount of time with dad in his car once I had become slightly competent) was the fact I would no longer have to wait for buses at 5.30 on a wet winters morning plus getting too and from college 3 times a week was a total pain, 2 buses each way.
I was spending probably 10 hours a week on buses going to work and to college (plus time spent walking and waiting), when I had passed those journeys could be done in way less than 3 hours in a dry warm car so well worth the effort.
After those 5 months of tuition I passed first time but then began the hard work, I had actually learn to drive. That is very different to learning how to pass the test since you are not driving on the same routes every week in daylight in light traffic. You have to drive on many different roads, in the dark, sometimes in foul weather surrounded by many idiots who do not realise you are a new driver.
So don't for one minute think the theory bit is the hard part, that is easy, you can press reset if you get it wrong and no one is harmed.
Driving is not a right, its a privilege.
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So you think I could pass with the right work even with my placement year next year. What if I don't pass by then that would be a disaster because it would mean taking a year out of driving and still having to wear a mask on public transport by the time 2022 comes
Whilst I passed my driving test aged 18 (in between finishing 6th form and going to uni), I did not drive again until 6 years later - well after I started work. I wanted to save up so I could afford to buy (outright) my first car so that the only debt I'd have (luckily my college years were before the changes to who paid the fees and the level of them) was a mortgage.
Whilst obviously there was no pandemic at that time, things aren't as bad as the media say, especially for younger members of society, who are far more likely to get a mild form of the virus should they catch it.
For the time being, it's something we all have to live with and make the best of as we can, including using public transport/cycling/walking to college/work.
Best of luck.
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Public transport doesn't look good at the moment, nor does walking when trying to attract girls, not when my stepbrother and stepsister can drive and their partners can also drive but I cant.
How would I be able to
1. Take the girl I like home if i can't drive
2. Visit the girl I like if I can't drive because I'm not using a mask on public transport and she lives too far away to cycle and walk so driving is the only option
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I should add - thanks to Andy and Dan above for their evidence that despite dyspraxia things can be achieved.
Rather as with dyslexia, I think it's best to view dyspraxia as not so much a disability as a different way of doing things, learning in particular. The rest of us need to make allowances, but equally the people concerned need to accept what they have and strive to overcome any problems they have.
That includes asking for help and being grateful when help is given.
I've never let it hold me back I've always just got on with life instead of saying i can't do this or I can't do that due to it. If I want to succeed in something I put the work in and do what it takes same with the theory test when I was learning to drive.
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Thing is dan86 in the past I have let it hold me back, getting a job, getting a girlfriend, not being liked, being at university later, being made fun of.
I am getting more confident and trying to be like you but its still difficult
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I’m afraid there’s no easy way, you have to put the hard yards in, if you want something badly enough you will do it, I’m sure you’ll find a way to juggle both your studies and theory test, don’t give up and good luck..
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Some young lads don't have a car but still find a girlfriend. Let your personality attract a girl, not a car. If a girl only wants to be with you if you have a car she's not worth it. Sometimes in life being patient is a virtue, I know it's not always easy but with patience and perseverance you'll get there in the end.
Today plenty of young men in their 30s and older are still living with their parents. These days not an unusual situation.
Good luck!
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When your stepbrother is due to get married next year to his partner and gets to be with her and your stepsister is living with her boyfriend and looking for a house
When they can both drive and both graduated and both have jobs then you will know what its like for me
I can't even go on a date with a girl I like because I wouldn't even be able to hug her so how on earth would I be able to take my relationship to the next step with her. I haven't even told her I like her because this virus ruined it
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Plenty in the same boat as you regarding dating. My nephew has a girlfriend yet he has to social distance from her and accepts it,
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But its not fair my stepbrother doesn't have to do that with his partner and my stepsister doesn't have to do it with her partner
When will I actually have some luck go my way.
I am so tempted to break the rules, ask the girl I like out, meet up with her and give her a hug.
For too long have i lived in the shadow of my stepsiblings not having the things I want and I am not willing to accept that for much longer
Edited by travelguy1234 on 05/07/2020 at 22:54
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Instead of saying that life isn't fair, much better to think positively and concentrate on the things that you're good at. Everyone has talents, including you.
Usual 24-hour warning - I'll close this thread at the end of tomorrow unless anyone has anything interesting to say.
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But how can I think positive when I can't do anything. I can't drive at the moment, I can't see the girl I like at the moment, I can't graduate from uni at the moment, can't get a job at the moment.
I can't do any of those things
My stepbrother and stepsister have all of that, they are with their partners while I have to face being stuck with my b***** parents for the next two months until hopefully I can move into my student house
Even if i could ask that girl out I wouldn't be able to hold her, to kiss her so whats the point
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Also I have just read thing
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/jul/04/driving-lessons-resume-in-england-but-learners-face-long-wait-for-test
Why does the person think people starting won't pass this year. That is out of order. I wanted to pass this year
I WANT TO BEAT MY STEPBROTHER AND STEPSISTER BUT I'M LOSING
I WANT THE CAR, I WANT THE GIRLFRIEND, I WANT THE JOB AND TO HAVE GRADUATED FROM UNI
I HATE THEM
I HATE THEM
I HATE THEM
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Also I have just read thing
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2020/jul/04/driving-lessons-resume-in-england-but-learners-face-long-wait-for-test
Why does the person think people starting won't pass this year. That is out of order. I wanted to pass this year
I WANT TO BEAT MY STEPBROTHER AND STEPSISTER BUT I'M LOSING
I WANT THE CAR, I WANT THE GIRLFRIEND, I WANT THE JOB AND TO HAVE GRADUATED FROM UNI
I HATE THEM
I HATE THEM
I HATE THEM
You hate you're step siblings because they've been more successful in life than you, that's extremely shallow and bitter and probably a turn off for many women.
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But its not fair my stepbrother doesn't have to do that with his partner and my stepsister doesn't have to do it with her partner
When will I actually have some luck go my way.
I am so tempted to break the rules, ask the girl I like out, meet up with her and give her a hug.
For too long have i lived in the shadow of my stepsiblings not having the things I want and I am not willing to accept that for much longer
Life isn't fair, you have to earn the things you want no body can just hand them to you, you're acting like a toddler who can't have what they want instead of going out and achieving it.
Girls or women I should say won't want to go out with you if you're acting this way.
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But I can't achieve anything at the moment because I can't actually do anything. You tell me what I could actually do today to improve my life. And yes I do hate my stepsiblings for being more sucessful, I don't have issues
Like I said how would you like it is
1. You couldn't drive but they can
2. You don't have a partner but they do
3. You haven't graduated from uni but they have
4. You haven't got a job but they do
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But I can't achieve anything at the moment because I can't actually do anything.
But nor can other people, for the same reasons. To that extent life is 'fair' - whatever that means in this context. It's usually a moan without a genuine excuse.
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But I can't achieve anything at the moment because I can't actually do anything. You tell me what I could actually do today to improve my life. And yes I do hate my stepsiblings for being more sucessful, I don't have issues
Like I said how would you like it is
1. You couldn't drive but they can
2. You don't have a partner but they do
3. You haven't graduated from uni but they have
4. You haven't got a job but they do
Acting like that will just make u sad and lonely. If u want something you go out and earn it.
1. I'd learn how to drive.
2. I'd put myself out there and start chatting to girls (women in my case) I liked
3. Id stick at studying
4. Id go get a job
Its not hard you need professional help. You're not the only person to suffer with mental health issues.
Coming on here bing rude to people isn't the help you need.
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Yeah but Dan
1. I can't drive today
2. I can't talk to the girl I like today
3. I can't graduate today
4. I can't get a job today because there are no jobs out there you stupid knob
Like I said, my step siblings have all of that TODAY
I Dont!!
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